The 10 Keys to Personal Power

The 10 Keys to Personal Power

Brian Tracy

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Key 1: Clarity
"Have vision. Determine what you want to be, do or have in life.  Have a sense of direction and know where you’re going.  If you do not have clear specific goals in life, you are doomed forever to work for others who do."



Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.

Melody Beattie

Key 2: Competence
"If you commit to excellence, opportunities will always come your way. The harder you work, the better you get."

To many a man, and sometimes to a youth, there comes the opportunity to choose between honorable competence and tainted wealth. The young man who starts out to be poor and honorable, holds in his hand one of the strongest elements of success. 

Orison Swett Marden

Key 3: Concentration
"Make the best use of your time. Ask yourself “Is this the best use of my time?” before you start anything."

Sleep makes people calmer, more alert, less fearful - just plain happier, or so I see around me and in me. I am sure that if this great nation were to concentrate on getting more sleep, we would be a happier, more confident people, and that by itself would be a major achievement.

 Ben Stein

Key 4: Common Sense

• Train your mind
• think things through
• listen to your intuition
• learn from setbacks

Man, if I get a chance to speak on the microphone, I've got to say something somewhere in there. You know, I'm going to laugh and have fun, too, but something has to be said that has some substance, because this is a platform, and the power that we have with words and with this microphone is phenomenal. 
Common

Key 5: Creativity
"Except the fact that every human being is a genius.  The hallmark of creativity is asking questions.  The people who are most creative ask the most questions."

Key 6: Consideration

"The quality of your relationships with other people will determine your success in life."

"Develop the people skills you need to become a better communicator.  Take courses in listening, speaking, etc."

"If you were to learn one new word a day, within 5 years, you’ll be the best educated person in history."

Sri Yukteswar showed no special consideration to those who happened to be powerful or accomplished; neither did he slight others for their poverty or illiteracy. He would listen respectfully to words of truth from a child, and openly ignore a conceited pundit. 
Paramahansa Yogananda

Key 7: Consistency

"Dependable, steady predictable work is always superior to fast spurts of work."

Be consistent in your relationships, your family, friends, your boss, your work.  Be the person that people can depend upon.  That if you say you’ll do something you do it.."

Even as a kid, I was a businessman. I figured out that if you plucked all the berries off my neighbor's tree and smashed them up, they made a Nickelodeon Gak-type consistency. I sold them to all the neighborhood kids and made stacks of quarters. Of course, the berries were poisonous, and I got in all types of trouble. 

-Adam DeVine

Key 8: Commitment

"No success is possible without commitment.  The ability to commit yourself whole heartily is the basis of achieving all success."

"Become totally absorbed in your work.  Be totally committed."

We, the People, recognize that we have responsibilities as well as rights; that our destinies are bound together; that a freedom which only asks what's in it for me, a freedom without a commitment to others, a freedom without love or charity or duty or patriotism, is unworthy of our founding ideals, and those who died in their defense.
 Barack Obama

Key 9: Courage

"The fear of failure is the single greatest reason for failure in life."

One isn't necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential. Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can't be kind, true, merciful, generous, or honest. Maya 
-Angelou

Key 10: Confidence

"You only get confidence by doing things over and over again ." 

Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses. 

-Ann Landers

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People 

Habit 1: Be Proactive 

"Habit 1 is the key to unlocking all the other habits and that's why it comes first. It says, "I am the captain of my life. I can choose my attitude. I'm responsible for my own happiness or unhappiness. I am in the driver's seat of my destiny, not just a passenger."

Being proactive means thinking and acting ahead of anticipated events; this means using foresight. Not only is it a great method for avoiding more work down the road, but it can be extremely important for averting disasters.

Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind

"Control your own destiny or someone else will." (Jack Welch)

Habit 3: Put First Things First 

"Organized and execute around priorities."

Do not put your priorities second because those priorities will determine your plans for tomorrow. Leaving thing for tomorrow has never been a great idea because then that shows you laziness and that becomes a habit so save yourself from becoming lazy and a procrastinator. It is very hard to get out of it.

Habit 4: Think Win-Win
"Think win-win or no deal."

In many situations there is usually a win win or a win lose or a lose lose situations. Its our job to go for the most beneficial one. There is no point on getting a deal that wont help you in anyway shape or form. This is a matter of facts and truth be told some people take lose-lose situations because of the benefits that actually come with it. The fact the people will go as far to lose in return gain something even better is something. This is how the real world works. They always going on about what choices they should make and what values come with it. People need to understand the world wont be waiting for them. They need to get up on there feet and start searching for the best and possible opportunities. No man or woman shall go to life and lead themselves to failure they must reach a win-win situation.


Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, then to be Understood
"Diagnose before you prescribe."
 
Always try to understand what others are going through than yourself the reason is that people always are in need of help. These type of people are the people that are the most sincere. People need to need to understand this that is key. Those that do not understand this concept will never ever be understood. Those that do get it will seek-out more friends and be able to understand one another equally on a level of sensitivity. it just like a doctor when he checks you for symptoms. After that he prescribes the medicine needed to treat your body.  This is what it means to Diagnose before prescribing. Understanding one and another hand to hand experience is key here. Always seek first to understand than to be understood. 

Habit 6:  Synergize
"The whole is greater than the sum of its parts (1+1=3)"

 People need to know what a good synergy can do to you and a team member. This can bring out loads of team work and other secrets. This a major to finding the best chemistry. A synergy can help bring out the true power of a double to four v four battle. Just like in the game Mortal kombat Smoke and Noob and perfect candidates for an example of synergy. This Duo works miraculous and is a duo to be on the lookout for. This is also goes to show that nothing can be done alone no matter how much is accomplish you will need some help at some point. Look for the one bond to help build up the chemistry. Once that is done you will be set and just then move from experience there on.  

Habit 7:  Sharpen the Saw
Four Dimensions of Self-Renewal: Physical, Mental, Spiritual, Social/Emotional

Always refresh yourself. Dont work hard work smart. sharpen the saw to make life easier.

Reflection:

Three Fundamental Techniques

in Handling People

Dale Carnegie

Technique 1: Don't criticize, condemn or complain.

“If you want to gather honey, don’t kick over the beehive.”

It is never a good idea to critize or judge because you dont know how sensitive they are to the situation. You can really hurt someone and make make them feel insecure about many things. If you want to make a friend you cant judge because then that would mean you are perfect but no one is perfect its called being a human being. Instead ask how you can help them. maybe you can help them feel better. 

Technique 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation
"The big secret in dealing with people"

When one looks up the meaning of the word "sincerity" you'll most likely get a definition like this:"the absence of pretence, deceit, or hypocrisy." That pretty much nails it. When someone is "sincere about something" one assumes that this person is thinking, talking, acting and writing without "pretence, deceit or hypocrisy".Do things out of the goodness of your heart; don't seek a reward or do things to acquire things from people. Don't do it or say it, unless you believe it from your heart.

Technique 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want.
"He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot, walks a lonely way."

Reflection:

Honesty should always be number one handling people because you can not carry on with lies . Lying to someone makes them feel disrespected and that is one thing you don't want to do. I am a people person and have an internship at a hospital so i constantly using these principals. It helps because when people see that you are interested in them, it puts a big smile on their face.

Final Part 1 of 2 

Class /Self-Evaluation

In this course I have learned a couple things (algorithms, binary numbers, coding, etc..,). I learned a bit more than what i already knew but i feel i would have learned a lot more if we would actually focused more on what this course is really about which is computer science. At the start of this class every time we meet we always begin by typing a attribute or a quote by someone we don't know that teaches how to be a good person. We spend about 1 hour and 30 minutes in this class and spend about an hour being taught how to be a good person and then devote the last 30 minutes of class to computer science. I understand what my teacher is trying to do but this is not the kind of course. I am a good person and always will be there is no doubt about that be i sighed up for this class to learn about computer science.

Rule 1: Become Genuently interested in other people.


"Do this and you will be welcomed anywhere"
You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years bt trying to get other people interested in you" 
"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering"

“Badges mean nothing in themselves, but they mark a certain achievement and they are a link between the rich and the poor. For when one girl sees a badge on a sister Scout’s arm, if that girl has won the same badge, it at once awakens an interest and sympathy between them.”

Juliette Gordon Low

When you acknowledge someone, you recognize their value and importance they will feel imortant and feel comfortable with you. Starting the day with a "Hello" or “Good Morning”. Smiling at each and every co-workers as you pass by them by on way to the office? Or reaching out to a new acquaintance you see in a crowd. Be friendly so they feel safe and be a new friend.

Rule 2: Smilie 

1) Actions Speak louder than words, and a smile says, I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you. 

2) "You dont feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."

3) "It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication)

Form one's features into a pleased, kind, or amused expression, typically with the corners of the mouth turned up and the front teeth exposed. A smile is the most important thing because it is contagious if you smile at some they'll smile and feel good. it may save a life.

 Remember even though the outside world might be raining, if you keep on smiling the sun will soon show its face and smile back at you.

Anna Lee

Rule 3: Rember names 
1) "A mans name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
2) "If you dont remember names , you are headed for trouble."

We can't allow any war for imperialism or greed to be fought in our names. This is what we need to keep fighting for.

When you use someone’s name, it shows you see that person as an individual. When you remember it, it shows your interest in and respect for that individual. In business, knowing someone’s name can make a difference in how that person feels about you and your brand. The trouble is most of us have trouble remembering the names of people we don’t know well, and we panic. Sometimes we may even avoid someone whose name we don’t remember in order to to avoid embarrassment. We even make excuses like, ”I’m terrible at names.” Or “I have bad memory.” People who are good at remembering names probably don’t have any better memory than you do. What they are better at is working at remembering names

1. Face association

Examine a person's face discreetly when you are introduced. Try to find an unusual feature, whether ears, hairline, forehead, eyebrows, eyes, nose, mouth, chin, complexion, etc. Create an association between that characteristic, the face, and the name in your mind. The association may be to link the person with someone else you know with the same name. Alternatively it may be to associate a rhyme or image of the name with the person's face or defining feature.

2. Repetition

When you are introduced, ask for the person to repeat their name. Use the name yourself as often as possible (without overdoing it!). If it is unusual, ask how it is spelled or where it is comes from, and if appropriate, exchange cards. Keep in mind that the more often you hear and see the name, the more likely it is to sink in.

Also, after you have left that person's company, review the name in your mind several times. If you are particularly keen you might decide to write it down and make notes.

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Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attractive listener."

"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems"

When you become a good listener you a journal or diary for someone. When you show interest in a person, that person feels that he/she can trust you and never break that trust because without that trust there is nothing. Don't be selfish and brag about yourself when you listen people, they listen to you. 

A good listener is not only popular everywhere, but after a while, he knows something.

Wilson Mizner

5 tips for active listening 

Step 1: keep natural eye contact and be patient 

Step 2: really listen, dont thing of you experiances and what to say next.

Step 3: allow for pariods of silence  wait till the other person speakes again.

Step 4: from time to time raet the persons word of parafrase what they said it will really asure                   that you are litening.

step 5: understand the motion and understand.

Rule5: Talk in terms of the other mans interest.

" the royal road to a mans heart is to him about the things he treasures most"

Photographers usually want to photograph facts and things. But I'm interested in the nature of the thing itself. A photograph of someone sleeping tells me nothing about their dream state; a photograph of a corpse tells me nothing about the nature of death. My work is about my life as an event, and I find myself to be very temporal, transient.

Duane Michals

Rule 6: Make the other person feel important -- and do it sincerely 

the desire to be important is the deepest  urge in human nature." (John Dewey) "Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."

There’s a big difference between appreciating people and making them feel significant. Of course, you want to appreciate others. But even more than that, you need to make those important people in your life feel that they matter.Success both personally and professionally is hard to achieve without others who fill gaps for you and support you. There is rarely an exception to this. Think of people in your life. Who has really impacted your career and your family? Do you make those people feel as if they’re irreplaceable? Do you brag on them in the presence of others? Do you give them credit for all they do for you? Do you ask for their opinions on things important to you and to the success of your company? Do you tell them how much you value their advice? Are you interested in the things they care about?.

“Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself – and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That’s what real love amounts to – letting a person be what he really is.”

Jim Morriso

Reflection: 

I have always used these ways.