Rule 1: Become Genuently interested in other people.


"Do this and you will be welcomed anywhere"
You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years bt trying to get other people interested in you" 
"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering"

“Badges mean nothing in themselves, but they mark a certain achievement and they are a link between the rich and the poor. For when one girl sees a badge on a sister Scout’s arm, if that girl has won the same badge, it at once awakens an interest and sympathy between them.”

Juliette Gordon Low

When you acknowledge someone, you recognize their value and importance they will feel imortant and feel comfortable with you. Starting the day with a "Hello" or “Good Morning”. Smiling at each and every co-workers as you pass by them by on way to the office? Or reaching out to a new acquaintance you see in a crowd. Be friendly so they feel safe and be a new friend.

Rule 2: Smilie 

1) Actions Speak louder than words, and a smile says, I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you. 

2) "You dont feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."

3) "It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication)

Form one's features into a pleased, kind, or amused expression, typically with the corners of the mouth turned up and the front teeth exposed. A smile is the most important thing because it is contagious if you smile at some they'll smile and feel good. it may save a life.

 Remember even though the outside world might be raining, if you keep on smiling the sun will soon show its face and smile back at you.

Anna Lee

Rule 3: Rember names 
1) "A mans name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
2) "If you dont remember names , you are headed for trouble."

We can't allow any war for imperialism or greed to be fought in our names. This is what we need to keep fighting for.

When you use someone’s name, it shows you see that person as an individual. When you remember it, it shows your interest in and respect for that individual. In business, knowing someone’s name can make a difference in how that person feels about you and your brand. The trouble is most of us have trouble remembering the names of people we don’t know well, and we panic. Sometimes we may even avoid someone whose name we don’t remember in order to to avoid embarrassment. We even make excuses like, ”I’m terrible at names.” Or “I have bad memory.” People who are good at remembering names probably don’t have any better memory than you do. What they are better at is working at remembering names

1. Face association

Examine a person's face discreetly when you are introduced. Try to find an unusual feature, whether ears, hairline, forehead, eyebrows, eyes, nose, mouth, chin, complexion, etc. Create an association between that characteristic, the face, and the name in your mind. The association may be to link the person with someone else you know with the same name. Alternatively it may be to associate a rhyme or image of the name with the person's face or defining feature.

2. Repetition

When you are introduced, ask for the person to repeat their name. Use the name yourself as often as possible (without overdoing it!). If it is unusual, ask how it is spelled or where it is comes from, and if appropriate, exchange cards. Keep in mind that the more often you hear and see the name, the more likely it is to sink in.

Also, after you have left that person's company, review the name in your mind several times. If you are particularly keen you might decide to write it down and make notes.

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Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attractive listener."

"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems"

When you become a good listener you a journal or diary for someone. When you show interest in a person, that person feels that he/she can trust you and never break that trust because without that trust there is nothing. Don't be selfish and brag about yourself when you listen people, they listen to you. 

A good listener is not only popular everywhere, but after a while, he knows something.

Wilson Mizner

5 tips for active listening 

Step 1: keep natural eye contact and be patient 

Step 2: really listen, dont thing of you experiances and what to say next.

Step 3: allow for pariods of silence  wait till the other person speakes again.

Step 4: from time to time raet the persons word of parafrase what they said it will really asure                   that you are litening.

step 5: understand the motion and understand.

Rule5: Talk in terms of the other mans interest.

" the royal road to a mans heart is to him about the things he treasures most"

Photographers usually want to photograph facts and things. But I'm interested in the nature of the thing itself. A photograph of someone sleeping tells me nothing about their dream state; a photograph of a corpse tells me nothing about the nature of death. My work is about my life as an event, and I find myself to be very temporal, transient.

Duane Michals

Rule 6: Make the other person feel important -- and do it sincerely 

the desire to be important is the deepest  urge in human nature." (John Dewey) "Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."

There’s a big difference between appreciating people and making them feel significant. Of course, you want to appreciate others. But even more than that, you need to make those important people in your life feel that they matter.Success both personally and professionally is hard to achieve without others who fill gaps for you and support you. There is rarely an exception to this. Think of people in your life. Who has really impacted your career and your family? Do you make those people feel as if they’re irreplaceable? Do you brag on them in the presence of others? Do you give them credit for all they do for you? Do you ask for their opinions on things important to you and to the success of your company? Do you tell them how much you value their advice? Are you interested in the things they care about?.

“Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself – and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That’s what real love amounts to – letting a person be what he really is.”

Jim Morriso

Reflection: 

I have always used these ways.